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Saturday, August 31, 2013

Adoption and Loss

I want you to know that although adoption is a wonderful thing, adoption is born out of loss. It wouldn't be necessary without loss.

These kids have lost their parents, the most critical of relationships- the ones who were supposed to nurture and protect them and make them feel safe, secure, and loved. One of our kids was abandoned at birth- taken from the hospital to the orphanage. We don't know the other one's story. We may never know it. Either way, they have both experienced deep loss. They may not be aware of it, but it still affects them deeply. It affects the way they view the world and it affects the way they trust others.

Although we are so excited to bring them home and make them a part of our family, to be a part of restoring life into their little souls, we are also very aware that coming home will mean more loss. It will mean leaving everything they've ever known for the five years of their lives.

Everything will be new and possibly a traumatic experience for them. They've never been to the grocery store or church or driven in a vehicle much. They have probably only been to the playground and yard outside of the orphanage. They don't know anything outside of the orphanage. They won't know our language. So much will be new. So much will be overwhelming.

Coming home to the love of a family means more trauma, more loss, but ultimately healing, in time. It might take a long time, but we're fighting for healing for them.  They will still hurt, but now they will have a Mama and Papa to hold them while they hurt, to help them through it.  A Mama and Papa who will tell them it's okay to be sad to leave the only home they have ever known and will hold them in their sadness.  Now they will have two comforters, and our prayer is that one day they will know the love of the True Comforter, their Heavenly Papa.  

This business of healing little hurting hearts and shaping little souls won't be easy. But I can't think of anything else I would rather be doing than to be used by God to bring life back to these sweet little ones.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Our Paperwork is Officially Submitted!

We can barely contain our excitement! :) Gah!
We just heard news that our paperwork was officially submitted in our kids' country!
Now we wait 8-12 weeks to receive travel dates and travel.

Annnnd, last week we heard from our facilitator overseas that  V and Z's director has agreed to keep them there until we get there!  That means they will stay in their good orphanage and not be transferred to an institution!  Such comforting news!

God is so gracious. :)

Sunday, August 25, 2013

I Like Adoption

I just saw this video for the first time tonight.  I'm in love.  :) Hope you'll take a few minutes to watch this inspiring family!

Monday, August 19, 2013

Depraved Indifference


Let's not be indifferent to this life, this face below.  He's God's son and he needs the church to rise up and do something.  PRAY, PRAY, PRAY that God opens the doors of Rus*ia.  The God who changes the hearts of kings can change Putin's heart.  He can reverse Putin's ban on Americans adopting Rus*ian children.  Let's fight for what is God's.  Russian orphans need to be rescued. 

Do you see his face?  This little guy has Down Syndrome, but he lives in Rus*ia, so he is hidden from society.  This is the before and after of when he was doing well in his babyhouse compared to what he looks like now after being transferred to a mental institution.  Can you believe it's the same little boy?  This is heartbreaking.  Rise up church.  PRAY with me for these children stuck in Rus*ia with little to no hope of being loved by a family as long as we're banned from adopting them.

This is the sad future we are trying to rescue our sweet babies from (I know they're not really babies, but to us they're our babies. ;))

If your heart is open to adoption, there are many children who need families now who are in open countries.  They need someone to rescue them and give them a loving family.  Any country can close at any time.  Every day matters for these little ones.  Would you like to make one of these children here your son or daughter?

Saturday, August 17, 2013

The Paper Chase is Over!

After months of filling out paperwork, running around gathering documents, getting every piece notarized, a trip to Immigration, and making three trips to the Department of State to get them apostilled, the paper chase is finally over.  I can't believe it!  It's such a weird, mixed feeling.  SO exciting!  Gah, I don't even know what to do with myself. :)

Last Wednesday, Immigration gave us our approval and we got the approval in the mail on Thursday. :) That was our last document and it will be on its way to our children's country tomorrow with a fellow adoptive parent.

Now the wait begins.  Our amazing facilitation team overseas will work hard to translate our paperwork, while we wait for it to be submitted to their country.  After submission, we wait another 8-12 weeks to travel.

Praying for November... :)

God's been showing up big.  We're excited to see what He does next!

Monday, August 5, 2013

Progress Update-- otherwise known as Please Pray

Many of you have been asking us for updates about where we are at in the adoption process.

We're happy to say we received our final home study report last week. Yayyyy!! Praise God it's finally here. 

Now we're onto our last big step stateside.  U.S. Immigration.  The people who can determine whether we get to travel in November or have to wait until later in January.

Please pray on our behalf that God would move USCIS to expedite our case.  Pray that we would receive approval within 2 weeks, instead of the standard 75 day wait. 

The LORD will fight for you;
you need only be still.
Exodus 14:14

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Ask Me Why I'm Adopting

I don't think we'll hide from our kids the fact that they're adopted. In fact, I want them to know. I want them to be aware that once they weren't, but now they are a part of our family. I want them to have a deep understanding of how much we wanted them. 

Ask me why we're adopting.  Please. I feel this ache in my bones to tell you.  I want you to know. 

I want to tell it because our reasoning is so intrinsically linked to the most beautiful truth in the universe: that we are (or can be) adopted by God himself. 

Cort asked me one time when we were early in our marriage why I loved her. After considering it a moment, I responded "I love you...because I love you." It's not ultimately based on her beauty, or her character, or how fun she is, or the way she smiles at me. I love her because I've chosen to love her.  Otherwise if one of those factors changes, then my affection would change. 

With the Lord God his love is the same, but bigger. I wasn't just alone and distant, isolated and abandoned. I was in active rebellion to him.  I was engaged in war against him and he saw me, pitied me, and chose to love me.  The Gospel is so radical in that it says that there's nothing I did to catch God's eye - no intelligent remark, no cute smile on an adoption website, no prospect of gaining anything from me. He loved me...because he loved me.  And that imbedded-in-his-character love led Him to die on a cross, to pay the price to win me into his family. 

I can't wait to tell my children that they didn't know us, but we knew them. I want them to know what it's cost in time, energy, money, comfort, and tears to get them. I want them to ask me "why?" so I can tell them with a smile, "Just because we loved you". 

We're adopting because we're adopted. We love because he first loved us. Everyday I pray for the chance to tell them that. I yearn that as we share our love for them that they would hear and understand the far greater love that stands behind it.  The love of a Father God who loves...because he loves.