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Saturday, August 31, 2013

Adoption and Loss

I want you to know that although adoption is a wonderful thing, adoption is born out of loss. It wouldn't be necessary without loss.

These kids have lost their parents, the most critical of relationships- the ones who were supposed to nurture and protect them and make them feel safe, secure, and loved. One of our kids was abandoned at birth- taken from the hospital to the orphanage. We don't know the other one's story. We may never know it. Either way, they have both experienced deep loss. They may not be aware of it, but it still affects them deeply. It affects the way they view the world and it affects the way they trust others.

Although we are so excited to bring them home and make them a part of our family, to be a part of restoring life into their little souls, we are also very aware that coming home will mean more loss. It will mean leaving everything they've ever known for the five years of their lives.

Everything will be new and possibly a traumatic experience for them. They've never been to the grocery store or church or driven in a vehicle much. They have probably only been to the playground and yard outside of the orphanage. They don't know anything outside of the orphanage. They won't know our language. So much will be new. So much will be overwhelming.

Coming home to the love of a family means more trauma, more loss, but ultimately healing, in time. It might take a long time, but we're fighting for healing for them.  They will still hurt, but now they will have a Mama and Papa to hold them while they hurt, to help them through it.  A Mama and Papa who will tell them it's okay to be sad to leave the only home they have ever known and will hold them in their sadness.  Now they will have two comforters, and our prayer is that one day they will know the love of the True Comforter, their Heavenly Papa.  

This business of healing little hurting hearts and shaping little souls won't be easy. But I can't think of anything else I would rather be doing than to be used by God to bring life back to these sweet little ones.

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